What You Should Know Before Moving In With Your Roommates
Let's get into the nitty gritty about college roommates
If you're currently looking for roommates or already have your roommate situation handled, then you probably know how important it is for you to pick the right roommate. It’s also important to figure out what kind of roommate you are. Are you a naturally messy or are you organized and detailed about your stuff? Are you okay with having house guests all the time or do you want your place to a safe haven where you can get away from people? If you're moving into a dorm then you should know that you won't have as much privacy as you would want. You're literally living in one room with another stranger. If you're like me then you cherish your alone time. It's going to be big adjustment but in every stage of life you will learn your fair share of lessons. I've had four different roommates and have had unique experiences with each one that has taught me more lessons about myself than I would have never known before.
The Lessons I've Learned About Roommates
- Don't live with your friends - There are so many friendships that have been ruined because they decided to live together. You never really know who your friends really are until you share space with them. I think it's harder to live with people you know and care about because its often hard for you to tell them about themselves. If you're friends said they were clean and then you learn they're definition of clean is different than yours then you will often bump heads about cleanliness. It's important that you talk about your living habits before you move in with them because it will save you a lot of arguments in the future.
- Be Honest - If something is bothering you, don't bottle it up and never let them know how you're feeling. If you're trying to come home and not stress about certain situations that are going on in your house, then talk to your roommates and see if you guys can come up with a compromise. It's way better than letting those feelings fester into resentment and anger. Nobody wants that
- Talk about how your house chores are going to be handled- Don't move in with someone when you haven't discussed how chores are going to be handled. Are you guys going to alternate on who takes out the trash? Be honest about what you're able to provide and how you're going to split up the chores because nobody wants to be living in a dirty house or be the only one cleaning. Sit down and talk it out.
- House Guests - If you're not comfortable with people of the opposite sex coming in and out of your apartment, dorm, etc. then let your roommates know. There are a lot of arguments that come about regarding house guests. If you're the person who always has someone over whether its females or males, it's important that you be respectful of the people you live with. It's best for you to be upfront and discuss what your comfortable with and what you're not then you're able to fix any problems and compromise on certain things.
These are the main lessons I've learned about college roommates and the advice I have for you on how to deal with your roommates. If you never talk about the things that you need to be discuss, you can't be mad about the way things turned out.
This is a new and exciting time in your life and it should be spent with roommates who take stress off you not add it on.
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