Three Things You Should Know About Maintaining Friendships In Your 20s
How are you keeping up with your friends?
As you get older, you realize that the things that use to come easy aren’t as easy as they used to be. It’s easy to keep in touch with your friends when you’re constantly seeing them on a regular basis but what happen’s when that changes? Are you able to still keep in contact? Do you want to keep the friendship going?
These are the many decisions you have to make when you’re in your twenties. It’s time to navigate the world friendships that will require you to put a little bit more effort. If you’re anything like me, than you’ve had friendships in the past where you put you’re all in and it still didn't work out. I have found myself neglecting or not putting much effort into maintaining friendships as I used to based on my past experiences with friends, which is a big no-no.
I have definitely learned a lot more about myself and have looked into ways to maintain healthier friendships with the people that I love by looking at the things that I don’t do as well.
Here are some things I’ve sucked at when it comes to maintaining healthy friendships:
MAKiNGTIME FOR THE PEOPLE WHO MATTER - it’s easy to get caught up with school, work, and your own busy life that you forget to check in on your friends and make plans. I often find myself making plans for myself such as taking myself to watch a movie, or getting my nails, and going shopping solo. It’s easy for me to spend time alone and I really do enjoy it but it’s also unfair to not ask my friends or family members whether they would like to go as well to spend quality time together. I’m definitely learning that when you have good friends, you can dedicate a day or two out of month to spend time with them and them alone. It’s okay to not always be in a big group and to give that person your undivided attention.
FORCING FRIENDSHIPS/RELATIONSHIPS - it’s easy to get caught up in social media and idolize big friend groups but it’s important that you realize that everything that looks good isn’t as good as it seems. It’s not a good feeling to surround yourself with people who don’t have good intentions for you, who don’t support you, and aren’t going to be there for you no matter what. Your twenties are a time to find yourself, your group, and your purpose. It’s not time to be with people who don’t align with your goals and the things that you have going for yourself. I can tell you personally that I have like 2-3 friends that I can personally count on no matter what, and I love it. I couldn’t imagine having to keep up with 5-6 friends, make time for all of them and then realize that they aren’t as loyal as I would like them to be.NOPE! i’m okay with the people I have in my circle currently and you should be too.
NOT COMMUNICATING AND SPEAKING UP - It’s hard to speak your truth and to be honest with people you care about. I know for me, I still struggle with it at times but I know that in order for my friendships to last I need to speak my mind. It’s okay to disagree with your friends but it’s also important for you to be honest. Don’t hold things in because you’re eventually going to explode and your friends won’t like what comes out. It’s important that once you feel something needs to be said you say it. This goes for anything. If your friend is doing something bad, speak up. If your going through something and need some help, speak up. Overall, speak up because you have a voice and it needs to be heard at all times. OKAY?!
These are a couple of things I’ve sucked at but trying to improve on when it comes to maintaining friendships in my twenties. Your twenties are going to be full of ups and downs but it’s important that you make it the most bearable and fun decade of your lives. This means taking charge of your life, putting more effort into maintaining healthy friendships, and learning to speak up.
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QUESTION: HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS?