Three Ways to Help You Maintain Your Relationship Post-Grad
Let’s get personal real quick!
I have been back home for about two months now. I currently still have one more class left to finish my undergrad career, so commuting once a week from my home to my college town isn’t bad but that’s not what I’m here to talk about. I’m here to talk about how to maintain a relationship post grad.
I met my lovely boyfriend my freshman year of college. I literally met him the second day on campus and we’ve been inseparable ever since. It will be four years in October ( crazy right?!). We’ve been together for a long time and we’ve been accustomed to seeing each other every single day except during the summers, when we only see each other twice a month or so. Overall, we were so used to seeing each other and being in each other’s presence and now that he has graduated and moved back home. It’s even harder for us to see each other as much, especially since we both work full-time.
I’ve decided to help out fellow couples who are currently going through the same thing as us.
Here are a couple of things that have helped us survive this transition:
COMMUNICATE EVERYDAY - I don’t mean you have to talk every second of the day but it’s nice if you guys communicate on a regular basis. It’s important that you keep communicating and interacting with one another. If you are truly committed to this relationship than distance should make you miss the other person more and not tear you apart from one.It’s important that you still make time for one another even though you guys can’t be physically together.
PLAN DATES - Yes, this is when you need to get creative. I know for me, I’m a strong homebody and prefer to watch movies in the comfort of my own home but I know that it’s fun and exciting to go out with your SO and have a blast together. It’s important that you plan to see each other once a week or twice a month, whichever works. It also gives you something to look forward to. Make sure you plan accordingly so you’re able to spend as much time as possible
TIME TO TALK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE - Do you guys plan on getting married? moving in together? It’s important that you figure out where your relationship is going because if you don’t like the current distance and can’t see a end then you’re going to get aggravated or upset that things can’t go back to how they were. It’s important that you communicate what you would like to happen and what you would like to work towards. If you know that eventually you will be together and will be able to see each other on a regular basis. You are more likely to suck it up and look forward to a time where you will be together again. PATIENCE IS KEY!!!
I’m not going to tell you that these things will make you feel any better about the distance but it will help you deal with it. It sucks to be away from the person you love and want to be around but it’s important that you don’t let the distance get between you. It’s about setting a plan in action and conquering this transitional period. It’s going to go by fast and eventually you guys will be back to seeing each other whenever you want without any restrictions.
YOU GUYS GOT THIS!
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QUESTION: HOW DO YOU HANDLE THE DISTANCE BETWEEN YOUR SO?